Tantrum in adults, it's how to overcome it
Tantrum not only happens to children. Adults can also experience it. When it happens, how is it right to solve it?
Not only children, but adults can also experience tantrums. Still, remember some time ago there was a viral man who was raging and slamming his motorcycle because the unreceived himself was crossed by the police? Maybe it could happen to you or those around you, find out how to overcome tantrum in adults.
If a child overcomes the tantrum, maybe the adult understands more about what to do. However, if that happens to adults, you may be confused.
Tantrum is a disturbing behavior that often involves physical activity or screaming. In young children, this condition is more often encountered, due to the lack of ability to control emotions and communication to express anger, disappointment, or frustration.
Adults are generally considered to have a variety of abilities that are ripe compared to young children. However, adults can still have a tantrum. Adults are expected to express anger through words, instead of a tantrum.
Just as in children, the form of a tantrum in adults can be screaming and screaming, emotion explosion, and so on. However, it can also be the opposite, namely in the form of aggressive passive behavior, such as silence and ignore as a way of manipulating it to obey.
How to overcome Tantrum in adults
The first step is to stay calm. To be recognized, seeing a tantrum adult can be very irritating and can be hooked to emotions. However, the more you get involved, the behavior can be increasing. So, as much as possible keep your emotions neutral. Like tantrum in young children, let the person through the tank phase.
Next, do this:
- Beware of situations
If it looks harmful, feel free to leave a tantrum adult. For example, if the person threatens to hurt, or until it throws the item. Adults who are drunk or in the influence of drugs can also potentially harm the people around him.
If you are experiencing this condition, secure the situation first, namely to keep it away. However, you will not be able to build communication when it is still explosive.
- Start communication when the person is seen starting to calm
If the tantrum condition has subsided, you can use the moment to communicate.
Start a conversation by showing empathy. Tantrum is caused by a well-controlled emotion overflow. You can try starting communication by saying, "I understand why you're emotional or frustrating..."
After trying to empathize, try to explain the limits of behavior that you can or don't accept, such as keeping an effort in understanding the feelings. For example, explain that you understand why it is upset about certain conditions. However, the behavior of raging or shotting you cannot be tolerated.
If the explanation is acceptable, you can continue the communication to find out the root cause that triggered the tantrum.
Try to use open-ended questions so that your opponents can more freely express themselves. Listen well to the explanation, there is no need to feel attacked personally, and the value of whether there is a point for your opponent's speech emotions.
As such, it is hoped that you and your opponent can communicate well to both understand the cause of the tantrum, and then find the way out.
If while communicating the situation instead of heating up, do not hesitate to stop first. Explain that talks need to be suspended, but can resume when the situation is quieter.
- Apologize if you make a mistake
If you make a mistake, admit and immediately apologize in good order. It can dampen emotions and make things better. It does not hurt occasionally. If the emotions already look stable, talking will certainly be easier.
These are some ways to overcome tantrum in adults. However, if tantrum occurs quite often or often, there is no harm in trying counseling, anger management, psychotherapy and so on after consulting with psychiatric experts. Especially if there are symptoms such as anxiety or depression disorders. However, adults should be better able to control their emotions instead of tantrum nights like small children.